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New ByLaws (Passed Oct. 2012)

Article I. Mission Statement

Lafayette Alternative Lifestyles (LAL) is a safe environment to meet and learn about BDSM in all of its variety. The members of this group are from all walks of life and all experience levels. You will not be turned away as long as you are sincere in joining in fellowship and understanding of all.

Article II. Events

The events associated with this group are a monthly business meeting, monthly pub night, demos, discussions, and play parties.

Section A – Business Meetings
Business meetings will be held once a month. The schedule shall be determined by the board, and the meetings are open to all over the age of 18. Discussions regarding upcoming events, feedback on previous events, and new ideas and concerns may be brought up at this venue. Votes that are not election based will be held at these events. By board decision or vote of the people attending the business meeting; decisions may be postponed until the next pub night; and a subsequent vote taken there.
The date should be placed on the official LAL calendar associated with the group, and there should be an event posted on FetLife at least one week prior to the meeting.

Section B – Pub Night
Pub Night/munch will be held once a month at a venue of the boards choosing. It should be a place that allows for at the very least a semi private setting, and large group seating. The board is responsible for securing this space on a month to month basis. This allows for a semi formal gathering of the membership to share social time and get to know one another.
This event is open to all comers over the age of 18. This event shall also be placed on the official LAL calendar and an event posted on FetLife at least one week prior.

Section C – Play Parties/Demos/Discussion
One of these events should happen on a monthly basis, these events take place in private home, and are subject to not only LAL rules, but in the event of more stringent rules, that of the homeowner as well. Attendance at one of these events does require a RSVP, and the permission of the host to come. These events should be posted at least three weeks in advance of the event.

Article III. Board Composition and Duties

Section 1 – Board Composition
The board shall be made of three members elected from the membership of the group. The qualifications are outlined is Article IV.

The following represents the expected responsibilities of each board member.
– Attend monthly business meetings.
– Attend the other LAL functions as often as possible.
– Be an ambassador for the group in the fetish/lifestyle community. Represent the group at other functions and groups.
– Settling of disputes and grievances.

The following duties will be split up amongst the board members as they wish.
– Posting of events on the official LAL calendar and on FetLife.
– Moderating the LAL group on FetLife
– Responding to emails sent to the board.
– Handling RSVP’s for events, sending subsequent follow up and directions.
– Making announcements at pub night.
– Reserving space for all official LAL events.
– Arranging presenters as needed.
– Running of board meetings.
– Maintaining the LAL treasury
– Maintaining content of the website.

Article IV. Qualifications for Board Candidates

– Must be a LAL member in good standing (being under no current disciplinary judgment of the board) for six months.
– Must have attended six official LAL events in the past six months.
– Must have attended at least three business meetings in the past six months.

Article V. Nomination and Election of Board Members

– The candidate must be nominated by a member in good standing (this can be the member themselves).
– Nominations will be held open for at least one full month and closed at least one week prior to election.
– If there is an uncontested election, the candidate will be declared the winner as soon as nominations are closed.
– A vote will be taken for contested elections and this will occur at the November pub night.
– To be eligible to vote, you must be a LAL member for six months prior to the election, be in good standing and have attended three official functions in the last six months.
– If you will not be at the meeting when the vote is being held, you may appoint a proxy for your vote. You may appoint your proxy by posting on the appropriate thread on FetLife, or you may also email the board and appoint your proxy that way. Proxies will be accepted up until the day before the election.
– A sitting member of the board may be re-nominated and re-elected.
– The successful candidate(s) will immediately assume the duties of a board member including ownership rights of the group. There will be a two month transition from the previous board to the new board to allow for easing into duties.
– In the event that two or more members of the board are engaged in a physical/dynamic/marital relationship, only one of that group may serve at a time in the interest of fairness and impartiality.

Article VI. Removal/Resignation of a Board Member

Section 1 – Removal
Members may at anytime submit a formal letter of complaint against a sitting member of the board. A private meeting of the other board members will be called to address the complaint and investigate the issues within the complaint.

If a member of the board does not fulfill their duties as required in Article III, that officer will be notified in writing by the board of the special business meeting at which removal from office will be discussed and voted upon. At that special business meeting, the officer may present statements to the membership in an effort to retain the position.

Removal will occur if so voted by majority of the members present at the meeting. The complaint will be considered closed if the majority vote is to retain the officer.

Section 2 – Resignation
A board member may step down at anytime if they are unable or unwilling to continue serving on the board. If this happens any time prior to August, an election will be held at the next pub night using an abbreviated election process. If this occurs after August there will be no replacement on the board, though they may solicit help from the membership to keep the group running efficiently.

Article VII. Code of Ethics/Conduct & Rules for Events

Section 1 – General Conduct Rules

– All members shall endeavor to exercise the utmost respect for each other.
– All members shall respect any other member or perspective member’s race, religion, sexual preference, D/s status or kink. No disparaging or untoward remarks or actions shall be made by one member towards another.
– All members shall respect the rights of others to be involved in the lifestyle to the extent that they wish.
– No member shall out, or threaten to out, another.
– No member should pressure another to participate in, or perform, any act or kink that they do not wish to.
– All members shall respect and support the right of another to say “NO”.
– All relationships and dynamics shall be respected.
– All members shall respect another’s personal space and property; this includes asking permission before touching.
– Experienced members should never take advantage of inexperienced members. They should instead utilize their experience to teach help those with less experience to discover themselves and advance in their knowledge of the lifestyle and community.
– There shall be no trolling within the membership or those that are on the FetLife group list.

Section 2 – Business/Pub Night Rules
– To attend a business meeting you must be at least 18 years old. To attend a pub night you must be at least 18 years old; unless the venue dictates otherwise
– Attire must be street legal for both of these events. We suggest casual street attire that you would wear out to a restaurant. A good rule of thumb is to dress as if you were going to a vanilla function.
– Toys and fetish gear should be left at home or in your car.
– All food and drinks ordered at any meeting will be paid for by the person or persons ordering it.
– Illegal drugs are strictly prohibited at all LAL events. If it is suspected that you are impaired due to an illegal substance or in possession of an illegal substance, you will be asked to leave immediately.
– Be considerate of other vanilla patrons to the establishment and those of our members who do not want to be recognized by the vanilla patrons. Be considerate of conversation topics in your surroundings.
– Use basic good manners. Be courteous and respectful to everyone you encounter.
Section 3 – Demo Night/Play Party Rules
– Demo/discussion nights are for educational purposes only. Personal play at demos or discussion nights is prohibited and is restricted to our play parties.
– You must be 18 years old to attend Lafayette Alternative Lifestyles’ play parties or demo/discussion nights. You need to have a valid driver’s license, state ID, or U.S. passport with you at all parties to verify your age in order to be admitted.
– You will be required to sign a waiver at LAL play parties releasing the host and LAL from liability in case of an accident and to verify that you have read, understand, and will abide by LAL’s rules.
– You must be a member and attend at least one LAL pub night, business meeting, or other LAL function, be vouched for by a known member, or meet with board member prior to the event to attend an LAL play party or demo discussion night. To vouch for a non-member means that the member takes full responsibility for the guest and his or her behavior.
– Please come to LAL play parties and demos fully dressed in a street legal manner. For play parties, what you wear or do not wear is up to you in the play areas. In the social areas, please attempt some modicum of covering for sanitation purposes.
– Do not touch other people without their permission; likewise do not touch another person’s toys without their permission.
– No always means no. This is not subject to interpretation.
– Do not interrupt scenes in progress. This includes not talking loudly or incessantly in the play spaces, not joining in a scene that you have not been specifically invited to join, and not talking to the players while they are playing. DM’s and hosts are able to interrupt the scene in the cases of safety or potential homeowner issue.
– Do not play overly loudly. Our demos and play parties are held in private residences and extremely loud play could irritate vanilla neighbors or interrupt someone else’s scene.
– Every play party and demo is a pitch-in where food is concerned. Please bring a snack, appetizer, or dish to share, and any beverage you wish to drink.
– Drunkenness and illegal drugs are strictly prohibited at all play parties and demos. Alcohol is permitted if the attendant is over 21, but should be consumed responsibly. If it is suspected that you are drunk or otherwise impaired, you will be asked to leave. Underage drinking or possession of illegal drugs at any LAL event will not be tolerated and results in immediate expulsion from the group.
– Cameras, cell phones, and other recording devices are strictly forbidden in the play area unless consent is given. Please make sure your cell phone is set on vibrate or silent at LAL demos or play parties.
– Sexual activity at LAL play parties is at the hosts discretion.
– There will be dungeon monitors at all LAL parties. If something goes wrong, let the dungeon monitor and/or host know immediately. Failure to heed a DM’s instructions can result in a banning from future events.
– Make sure you are aware of and respect the house rules. These are at the discretion of the host/hostess and must abide by all LAL play party rules. It is important to make yourself familiar with the house rules at each function as they may change from event to event depending on who is hosting. House rules may be more stringent than LAL event rules.
– Extreme scenes, including, but not limited to fisting, blood play, and fire play are prohibited without the express permission of the host and Dungeon Monitor. If you are in doubt as to whether your scene would be allowed, please ask, and abide by their decision.
– The house safe word is always “RED”. Any scene must immediately cease if “RED” is called. Personal safe words will also be respected, and any scene must stop if one is called. Regardless of your orientation, make sure you are familiar with your partner’s chosen safe word.
Any violations of the Code of Ethics/Conduct will result in sanctions as determined by the board.

Article IX. Grievances and Sanctions by the Board
Violations of any of the aforementioned rules can lead to disciplinary action. The board cannot be at all places at all time; therefore any grievance must be put into writing. The grievance should give details regarding the event, this would include date, location, witnesses and a detail of the situation. This should then be submitted to a board member.

Once this has been received, the entire board shall investigate the grievance and arrange a meeting where the parties may give testimony and be allowed to speak for their side. The board will then make their decision and in the event that the grievance is found to be true will set the punishment. Punishments will be according to the seriousness of the offense. Punishments may include anything from not be allowed at specific events, to being not allowed at any function for a given time, or expulsion from the group.

In the event that the grievance is against a board member, the remaining two shall ask a third member to join in the deliberations. Please remember that due to privacy concerns, not every member will be privy to the goings on.

Article X. Amendment of By-laws

Petitions to change these By-laws must be presented to the board in writing to be considered
When significant changes to these By-laws are proposed, they shall be explained and discussed at a business meeting, the changes are then posted on FetLife to be seen by the membership, those will be reviewed at the next Business Meeting where any changes that are agreed on by the majority can be made. The new proposals are posted, and the vote would be done at the following pub night. The final vote is strictly a yes or no vote, there will not be changes made there.

Article XI. Committees

Educational Committee: the board may appoint an Educational Committee to be responsible for the preparation and presentation of instructional and educational materials to the group. These will include obtaining guest speakers for future events, and possibly establishing and maintaining an educational library for member use.

Party committee: The board may appoint a party committee to help set up, tear down and clean up at demos and parties.

Additional Committees may be appointed as deemed necessary by the board.

Article XII. Fees and Assessments

A voluntary collection will be taken at pub night. These funds are to be accounted for by a board member and an accounting given each month. These funds may be used to fund future events deemed appropriate by the membership.

Article XIII. Dissolution of the Group
This group maybe dissolved with a (2/3) two-thirds majority vote of the current active membership.

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